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Marchers at Women Take Back the Night rally in Austin powerful-looking black woman. “No one every says, ‘My God, how could you say such a thing?’ On the other hand, if someone said ‘nigger’ on Johnny Carson . . . Sexism has nothing to do with individual acts of discrimination. The ‘ism’ gives it a societal impact. It has an institutionalized connotation.” “Societal concepts and societal suggestions mean we really make rape OK. We really say almost that it should happen. We train you for it. ‘It’s really for the taking, isn’t it?’ ” Even in classroom play, Lewis said, children are segregated by sex. “We learn there is a favored group of people, and it’s not girls. We are programmed toward a sexist model.” Women’s clothing, Lewis said, is another example of sexist role-playing. “We are put into the kinds of things that make us dependent high, high heels and tight, tight skirts. Men are told they’re responsible for us. We can’t take care of ourselves. Men’s resentment builds. We hear things like ‘spending my money.’ We learn that women aren’t valuable except for sex and having babies.” “We hear the concept that for women, sex is meaningful, and men should do it as much as possible. He should get as much experience as possible and talk about it as much as possible.” In turn, she said, women “foster the concept that we want to be raped. We train our teenage girls to tease, and we train him to stand around the next day and talk about whether he ‘got any.’ What if he’s not? Where do rape fantasies come from?” “Gone With the Wind,” replied Dr. Groth, who addressed the conference the next morning and conducted three workshops. Groth said that when Rhett grabbed a resisting Scarlett and carried her up the stairs, and she appeared bruised, but all smiles, the next morning, we saw the real stuff of romance. And the real stuff was rape. The most common type of rape, Groth said, is “power rape,” in which whatever force is needed to gain control is used on the victim. He differentiates the power rapist from the anger rapist, who is more likely to rape in an explosion of unpremeditated rage and leave his victim severely beaten. In his work with sex offenders in Connecticut and Massachusetts, Groth found sex offenders often believed in the fantasy of the unwilling, resisting woman who switches: “When I do this, she’s going to like it. She may want to see me again.” Power rapists tend to be repeaters, and are more compulsive about their assaults. “They assume,” said Groth, “if the rape doesn’t fulfill the fantasy, it must be the wrong victim.” The power rapist doesn’t feel in control of his life, has “deep seated feelings of inadequacy,” and finds a transitory sense of power in the assault. “They’re not doing it out of sexual desire any more than an alcoholic drinks because he’s thirsty.” In addition to the so-called anger rapist and power rapist, there is a third category in Groth’s nomenclature, and thankfully he’s the least prevalent the sadistic rapist. One man under Groth’s treatment has committed four rapemurders between the age of 14 and 30. The killings weren’t to eliminate a witness, but took place because the murderer found them sexually gratifying. He told Groth that as a boy he went to the local drugstore, where he would buy magazines with pictures of women in bondage. No, not Playboy, but manuals for sexual murder found right next to Popular Mechanics the detective story magazines. THE TEXAS OBSERVER 3